Isn’t It Time to Move on From Your Midlife Divorce and Create a New You and a New Life? Let go of the past, let go of the hurt and confusion, move on and build an amazing new life!
My name is Diane Adkins, and I am also known as The Midlife Optimist. And, if you are on this website then I can probably relate to how you are feeling (and right now, it probably isn't very optimistic.) This website was designed specifically for women, over 40, who by choice or circumstance have found their worlds turned upside down by a midlife divorce. I have been there and have gone through it…all the hurt, anger, confusion, pain, denial, betrayal, a little more anger and finally acceptance.
It is hard work to finally accept that your life is going to be very different than the one that you had planned during the last 10, 20, 30+ years that you were married. Especially when you have now spent a large majority of your life with a man who you thought was with you until “death do us part”…clearly, if you are reading this – that just wasn’t the case. I know there may be days you wish you could help your ex honor that vow :) but, we all know that isn’t the answer and he isn’t worth more sacrifice. Haven’t you sacrificed enough?
I know I have. I finally woke up and decided that I had invested enough energy into my ex, both while we were married, after he made his decision that he wanted a divorce, and during the divorce process. I decided that it was time to invest in ME. I hope you make the same decision.
I know that you may not feel like this right now, but I know you are a strong, capable and resilient woman. You know you want to move past your divorce, move past the emotional upset, and embrace your new future, but you may find yourself stuck or you find yourself using your divorce as an excuse for not moving forward.
Ultimately I found that you get to make a choice whether you are going to allow your divorce to be your excuse or if you will use it as your catalyst for positive change. What I also know to be true is that your divorce is not the end, but a new beginning. Your marriage is over, but not your life. Now is the time to invest in yourself and create the life you want.
Encouraging you to make the next decade your best yet!